In most relationships there is a good guy and a bad guy. It sets a kind of balance. Sometimes partners will trade off who gets which role. My husband and I both want to be good guys all the time. That creates no end of trouble. Sometimes I slip into the bad guy role but it makes me resentful and angry which makes me even more of a bad guy.
It used to be that I was so good, there was no way for anyone to compete. That was before I met my husband. I’ve never met anyone as good as him. I know that no one is all good or all bad, and that it only has to do with appearances, but that doesn’t help.
We are both looking for balance and read lots of books about Budhism, but it makes me laugh, because we are both hard-wired to strive toward goodness.That makes me kind of cranky, to tell the truth.